Yet, for this shift in attachment style to happen, avoidantly attached individuals and their partners need to stay in a relationship for a relatively long period of time. So, what can avoidant individuals and their partners do to stay happy and satisfied in their relationships? Romantic relationships, for example, serve as a secure base that help people face the surprises, opportunities, and challenges life presents.Similarities such as these led Hazan and Shaver to extend attachment theory to adult relationships.So if a caregiver has been available and sensitive to a child`s needs, the child might think of himself as lovable and of others as reliable and trustworthy, and subsequently develop a secure attachment style.
Their independent lifestyle might be fuelled by something that is called "avoidant attachment".Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby founded modern attachment theory on studies of children and their caregivers.Children and caregivers remained the primary focus of attachment theory for many years.At the same time, the partners of an avoidant individual get to enjoy that they have a fascinating partner who has more interests than "just the romantic relationship". Personality and Social Psychology Review, 6, 123-151. Although a relationship with an avoidant individual may require some extra work and time, with adequate understanding the relationship can flourish and grow like any other.