South Loop resident Abimbola Oladokun, 30, a litigator with a corporate law firm, has been using dating apps off and on for about four years.These days, she fires up Tinder, Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel.That includes words like “voting,” “Republican,” “Democrat,” “right” and “left.”Spoiler alert: Talking politics pays dividends.“If you mention politics in your profile,” she said, “you’re three times more likely to get a message.”Here’s more strategic advice to help you sidestep the haters and find a partner who’s crazy about you, quirks and all. The secret, according to Hobley, is that most people are not confident, outgoing and full of swagger. The trick is to include details in your profile that help potential mates engage.List your favorite artists and TV shows you can’t live without, “so someone can say, ‘Ah, ‘Game of Thrones,’ OK, are you a house Lannister or a house Targaryen?
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When that pal’s paid account was about to expire, he reached out to Seibert and asked him to browse the site on his behalf and suggest some potential matches.
Seibert was reluctant: “At first I’m like, ‘Yo, what do I look like, Cupid? Focusing too heavily on a lack of matches or a dearth of meaningful messages can leave you circling the drain.
“I definitely think there was some fetishizing going on,” she said, from men seeking a “sexual experience” based on their perception of black women.
Dealing with crass, stereotypical overtures is one struggle.