Misunderstandings with warped oedipal undertones often plague queer women in intergenerational relationships.
Once, the author and poet Eileen Myles was checking out at a store with a younger woman she was dating at the time, when the cashier asked her, “How are you doing today, Mom?
“We just kind of got each other, a right away thing.
Being older, I realize how rare it is to really mesh with somebody like that.” Their friendship inevitably evolved.
“I didn’t want her to feel taken advantage of later on.
“You want to put a stake through the guy’s heart.”Myles, 66, has been romantically involved with a number of women a few decades her junior.In the newly released season two of Transparent, there's another distinctly Myles-like older dyke poet character (Myles and Transparent's creator, Jill Soloway, are currently dating), who, when hanging around with a younger woman, deals with an awkward Is-that-your-girlfriend-or-your-daughter mixup.M, a 30-year-old living in Los Angeles with her partner, T, who’s 19 years older, says they also receive some scrutiny when they’re out in public.Not because they are gay, but because Sarah Paulson is dating the crypt keeper.” Depictions of significant lesbian age differences were mostly the stuff of subculture before this year, when a number of films pushed the phenomenon into the mainstream spotlight.Three films released in 2015 that centered on lesbian characters — Paul Weitz’s Grandma, Peter Sollett’s Freeheld, and most recently, Todd Haynes’ Carol — all involved intergenerational romantic relationships.