They are dealing with their own issues of loss, betrayal, adjustment, trust- just to name a few.Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.Remember that meeting a new partner will bring up many emotions for children. The effects of divorced mothers’ dating behaviors and sexual attitudes on the sexual attitudes and behaviors of their adolescent children. For related content, check out our Divorced Mom’s Guide to Dating site here!Sticking to neutral turf helps the parent provide the necessary structure children may need while being introduced to new partners. Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.She found that the young children she studied worried about how their parent’s dating process was going to affect them.Children between the ages 5 and 10 were more possessive of their mother than older children.
Teenage children are entering a new world of dating behavior that may include sex, and will look to their parents as models of behavior. Research has shown that single parents’- and especially mothers’- attitudes and behaviors on sex and dating influence their children’s attitudes and behaviors.
More Online Resources: Click here to read a great article from the Boston Globe that includes a list of guidelines surrounding dating after divorce Tips, Resources, and Warning Signs for Divorced Parents: The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT) presents a great article on divorce and your children A Family Education article featuring individuals experiences with post-divorce dating and their children A great review of dating, remarriage and children based Constance Ahron’s longitudinal study from Missouri Research: Anderson, E, et al (2004).
Ready to take a chance again: Transitions into dating among divorced parents.
Introduce the new partner as a “new friend” and not the new “love of my life.” Sensitivity Counts.
Children may have more trouble adjusting to their fathers’ dating relationships than their mother’s.