Well I knew he would continue bothering me so I turned off my ringer, 10 mins later something told me to check my phone had 17 missed calls from him.So I said oh no this is not, good he's gonna come over here and will find me with my friend and will just go buckwild.Julie G-of course my priority are my children, but they will spend 14 nights out of the month with dad, am I just supposed to sit at home those 14 nights and plan activities for them when I see them again? hmm Candice- My kids are doing great actually because up until wed night we had been working as a hell of a team to make sure that their feelings were put first.My daughter has no idea my ex wants nothing to do with her now, she was not there to hear him say that and I do not plan on telling her either.He picked up the kids as agreed and I was to get them back thurs after work.I always call to say goodnight to my babies about 8pm, I called but they had fallen asleep early, so my ex started trying to convince me to let him com over for sex and I refused(he tries this everyday) plus I had my friend over!You already have four girls by two men, including a 12 year old with a 17 year old boyfriend. Having men over to your house while you're still married may or may not be "right" but I imagine it's not going to look good in the eyes of the law when it comes to custody and visitation. While the marriage may seem dead and buried to you, this has apparently been a shock to your husband and probably your kids too.
He however is having a much harder time accepting this and has been trying to "fix" the unfixable for the last month.It's just a good policy to deal with one relationship at a time.Until you are officially divorced, you are still in a relationship.I have a BIG dilemma going on, I'll try to sum it up as much as I can.I have decided to leave my husband of 9 years (we have 3 girls together) and moved out with my kids a little over a month ago.