The girl was strongly into the discussion, so I had to keep chugging along, listening to her viewpoints and, in exchange, share with her my own opinions.It felt completely unnatural to drop the discussion and transition into emotional flirting.I can say that I finally grasped the reasons that are responsible for making American dating culture so complex and so radically different from pretty much dating in any other country.
One night I had a date with a cute 29-year-old American girl. At some point we began talking about dating and she told me a story about her feminist friend who’s doing a Ph D on “cat calling.” I used that opportunity to ease further into other sexual topics. We were sitting across from each other, drinking beers and openly discussing various sexual topics.As a result of this information overload, most women you meet in America have already formed various opinions on a wide range of issues.I’ve met girls who had an opinion on subjects ranging from the efficacy of Western sanctions on Russia, the best way to fight ISIS, to ways of obtaining Federal government funding for social services, ways of cutting Federal funding for social services, the best way to answer when a guy calls and reschedules, etc., etc.Again, I expected her to get a little uncomfortable, but, to my surprise, she boldly began sharing her opinions on this subject as thought she had discussed exactly this topic countless times before. It’s the fact that I wanted to genuinely flirt—flirt without all the politically correct bullshit on subjects that have already been discussed ad naseum—but I couldn’t.I simply had no other choice but Flirting is sensual, emotional and imaginative.