Yet many young adult Catholics seem to find “playing the field” problematic.For the very introverted, this makes sense—it takes a lot of “people energy” to date casually.In other words, someone you know or who knows people you know, whose character you may be able to at least partially verify. For women, this can be especially risky—who knows if the guy on the other side of the computer is safe to be with?My tactics to reassure women were to give my full name and add the person on Facebook before we met in-person.Traditional dating has its physical, emotional, and other risks.For many Catholics looking for Catholic spouses, some of those risks are reduced—you’re more likely to meet someone through a social group or a Bible study or at Mass instead of at a bar.While members of both sexes also lie about their views on chastity, I have heard many shocking stories from women who were tricked by men.
I’m not a fan of “playing the field.” It feels manipulative or even dishonest to casually date two or more people at the same time. There is nothing morally wrong with “seeing” multiple people as long as you intend to be exclusive with one person once things get serious.
Watch how your date handles physical affection—does he move too quickly, does she respect your professed boundaries, how does he handle you saying “no” to physical affection?
Are your specific moral challenges with regards to dating respected?
Nowadays, women are bombarded by men every day on dating sites, and have learned how to filter out the creeps, weirdos, and plain boring guys.
Avoid the same mistakes and better your chances of finding a partner online!