On the condition of anonymity she agreed to tell all. If you are even an average or above average female, finding a date isn't an issue.You have a lot of guys you can go on dates with, but what makes it difficult is finding a viable partner. They are extremely smart and logical and think, "I can apply that to a relationship and be rational and logical and that will work." They don't realize that as women, we can be emotional — a lot of guys don't have tolerance for that.Most of the men went to Ivy League schools, are ambitious, and came out here because it's the mecca of the tech world. A lot of people in the Valley have started meeting people through salsa dancing — it's really big — and so much social awkwardness comes up. They act like, "Oh my goodness, there is a woman who I'm touching." They get super nervous.There's a great mix of guys from all over world, and there are interesting types of people to meet. I don't think a lot of guys even interact with women on a consistent basis. It makes it difficult to date someone who doesn't even know how to act in a social context; it's just frustrating. He told me all these things that you wouldn't ever disclose on a first date.
The mentality is, "Am I going to invest in this or do sort of a pre-date? They're the type that's always looking for a better option.
Alexandra, 25, told that, in her experience, there's some truth to the awkward "tech guy" stereotype.
"Since it's the tech area, unfortunately that means that a lot of the guys feel entitled — they are so cool because they work here and make this much — or they're not very good at dating yet," she said.
Bay Area executive coach and psychologist Christina Villarreal told that many women she encounters moved to the Bay Area for two main reasons: advance their careers and meet their life partners.
While these women arrive thinking the odds are in their favor, they eventually realize the local dating culture doesn't prioritize marriage as they had hoped."I think many men and women in the Bay Area have come to feel satisfied with 'friends with benefits' situations," Villarreal said, "and find this easier than putting in the necessary time and effort it takes to maintain a long term monogamous, committed relationship. While there tends to be adequate opportunity for 'dating' experiences, some women complain about how difficult it can be to shift from serial dating to settling down with someone in a committed relationship."Delaying marriage isn't a trend limited to Silicon Valley.