In creating my profile, I tried to send a clandestine mating call to my ideal caregiver—a dolphin whistle through a vast ocean of job-seekers. ”) As with Internet dating sites, encourages—and indeed almost requires—that users rely on knee-jerk, instinctive judgments of other people. On Care.com, many people post sunny photos of themselves with a cute kid, or a gorgeous headshot. Or depict themselves at what appears to be a frat party, tipsily holding a Solo cup. Or choose a selfie where they’re holding the phone so high you can see all their cleavage. Like everyone who has ever swiped on Tinder, I judge, and I judge, and I judge.My profile contained words like “loving,” “thoughtful,” “engaging,” and “supportive.” I chose a photo of my daughter and me in the park, smiling warmly. Recently, a prospective babysitter’s email began: “Hello Tamar, My name is Tamar.” She went on to tell me her age and interest in my job posting, without acknowledging that we share a (fairly uncommon) first name.I wrote her off as robotic and awkward and did not return her email.Irrational nitpicking may be irrational, but anything to cull the herd.She also lived more than an hour away and was constantly and significantly late, causing me to miss appointments and meetings.
" "We made an offer to an absolutely beautiful nanny yesterday, I cannot speak highly enough of the Find A Babysitter website and its functionality!In other words, Care is organized like a dating site—only the date is a babysitter, and your fingers are crossed that you’re both ready for a long-term relationship.You’re not looking for a romantic partner, of course, but the search can feel just as raw and vulnerable—and the desired outcome is, in its own way, very intimate.Sometimes the babysitter is going to arrive in the evening to help with bedtime and find all of us exhausted and irritable after a tough afternoon, markers, books, and animal figurines strewn all over the floor, one of us midtantrum. Being technologically savvy is not a requirement for being a good babysitter, nor is being photogenic.Sometimes she’ll arrive in the morning to find me still in my pajamas, remnants of breakfast in my hair. ) English-speaking, in-home babysitters who live within five miles of me; I need to narrow the candidates down somehow. But if they can’t take the time to snap a nice selfie and upload it onto this website, they’re either hiding something or they’re not serious. Many others post dark, shadowy pictures in which their face is obscured.