Researchers have examined whether couples in long distance relationships have more affairs than geographically close couples. The good news is that all three studies showed that couples in long distance relationships had no greater risk of having an affair than geographically close couples.It seems that the risk of having an affair is related more to the quality of the relationship between the couple, and the personalities involved, than on mere opportunity.Geographically close couples do this almost unconsciously as they chat about little events that are upcoming or recently past.These little events seem relevant when discussed right away, but they lose their interest and excitement when discussed in retrospect.Think of intimacy as requiring two components: 1) the sharing of emotions, and 2) inter-relatedness of daily activities.
Greater exposure to far away singles accounts for part of this trend.“People travel for their work, they commute farther, they generally travel more than we did just a few decades ago.
I break down long distance relationships into four broad areas – demographics, the personality of each person in the couple, the support system for the relationship, and the quality of the relationship itself.
Research has shown clearly that of these four components, demographics has the least to do with the success or failure of a long distance relationship.
All of these things make it more likely that they’ll fall for someone who doesn’t live nearby,” says Dr. The rise of Internet dating services predictably contributes to “coast-to-coast couples” – those who live on opposite ends of the nation and met on the web, but have a real, not just a virtual, relationship.
Society has finally started accepting long distance relationships as a viable alternative.