Society keeps advertising that’s pretty much all there is to expect out of relationships, so many settle for less to get it.
Here are his points, with additional comments from what I caught in reading them: First, there must be the proper approach toward marriage, which contemplates the selection of a spouse who reaches as nearly as possible the pinnacle of perfection in all the matters which are of importance to the individuals.
If you have really gotten to know the person you’re dating, you’ll know what kinds of things are important to them. If physical intimacy took a higher priority than really getting to know and understand the needs of your girl/boyfriend, you might find yourself seriously lacking in your ability to fulfill their needs in marriage that go beyond sex.
Really get to know the person you’re dating and keep getting to know them – from the little things to the big things.
Almost as if we are more willing to sacrifice modesty and chastity in order to avoid the vulnerability to hurt and pain that can come from feelings that aren’t reciprocated. Chances are, if you’re interested in someone enough to engage with them in truly getting to know them and be their friend, the physical aspects of a relationship shouldn’t be a problem at all, so they can wait.
In reality,though, feelings, emotions, compatibility as a couple, etc. So, why allow yourselves to get wrapped up in moments of pleasure and false comfort that are only going to create more pain and discomfort and have the potential of making things more personal when it’s discovered you’re really not compatible with each other? President Kimball offered advice as to what would make a marriage successful.