Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.9. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.14.Give her space The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself.SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back.
Be fully transparent If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds…Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be. Never stop growing together The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.
She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)15.
Be vulnerable…You don’t have to have it all together. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward.
Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing.(Okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point.
Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids.