Please give me advice on how to make him understand that this is not him! "There's a fair bit of controversy over whether people can suppress fetishistic desires like this—and whether it's healthy to ask them to do so," said Dr.
David Ley, a clinical psychologist, author, and AASECT-certified sex therapist.
"Personally, I believe in some cases, depending on the support of their environment and personal relationships, it is possible, but only when these desires are relatively mild in intensity." Your husband's interest in diapers—which would seem to go all the way back to at least age 7—can't be described as mild.
"Given the apparent strength and persistence of her husband's interest, I think it unlikely that suppression could ever be successful," said Dr. "In this case, I think MADDL's desire for her husband to have sexual desires she agrees with in order for her to be married to him is a form of sexual extortion, i.e., 'If you love me and want to be with me, you'll give up this sexual interest that I find disgusting.' Without empathy, mutual respect, communication, unconditional love, and a willingness to negotiate and accommodate compromises and win-win solutions, this couple is doomed, regardless of diapers under the bed." Now let's bring in a voice you rarely hear when diaper fetishists are being discussed: an actual diaper fetishist.
Shortly before the birth of our child, I found out that he'd been looking at diaper porn online. He apologized and said he'd never look at diaper porn again.
I broke down, and he agreed to talk to a counselor.
I took a picture and sent it to him, and he told me that he was tired of me controlling him and he is going to do this when he wants. He says he never wants to discuss diapers with me again, and I'm afraid he might choose them over me! Married A Disgusting Diaper Lover First, MADDL, let's calmly discuss this with a shrink.So if you can't live with the diaper lover you married—if you can't accept his kink, allow him to indulge it on his own, and refrain from blowing up when you stumble onto any evidence—do that diaper-loving husband of yours a favor and divorce him. David Ley on Twitter @Dr David Ley and Pup Jackson on Twitter @pupjacksonbitez.I'm a 33-year-old man, and for years I've practiced edging."The common misconception with ABDL (adult baby diaper lovers) is that they are into inappropriate things—like having an interest in children—and this couldn't be more wrong," said Pup Jackson, a twentysomething diaper lover and kink educator. Sometimes it's a way for a person to disconnect from their adult life and become someone else.With DLs, they aren't necessarily into age play—they enjoy diapers and the way they feel, much like people enjoy rubber, Lycra, or other materials.