I hesitated posting this because I’m clearly having one of those days, but I try to keep it real here.
I hate to be negative about this life (because I feel blessed to be in it!
Nine times out of ten, they “met” their soldier on a social networking site, such as Facebook, or an online dating site.
********** UPDATE: Two women were prosecuted for receiving over one million dollars from 374 people in these scams! Since starting the website in 2004, I have received many emails from people who believe they are dating a soldier when, in most cases, they actually are not.
If this article helps you or has kept you from becoming the victim of a scam (or sending him even more money), please consider donating to help maintain this website so that others will be able to utilize this information as well. It’s true that special ops guys can’t discuss their job but that also means they don’t tell random strangers they’re in special ops. When we would go out with a bunch of guys from his unit and people would ask what they did, they simply replied they were in the Army. They’re known as “quiet professionals” for a reason. He has been deployed for two years, has been denied leave time and will not be coming home any time soon therefore you won’t be able to meet. He is on a top secret mission in a country other than Iraq or Afghanistan (or even in Iraq or Afghanistan – it’s all lies).
If there were soldiers being denied leave after being overseas for years at a time, it would be ALL over the news. Now, we certainly do have troops in other countries.
Continuing to talk to their loved one that they knew before deployment? And when you’re thousands of miles away from each other, he doesn’t have the opportunity to sleep with you. Many of these stories contain comments about him saying he loves you within a few days/weeks of starting to talk or he wants to marry you as soon as he returns. And they’re doing this to many others at the same time they’re doing it to you. Go back and read the first line in bold at the top of this article.
In fact, even in the case of the death of an immediate family member, the information has to be verified by the American Red Cross before the soldier’s command is contacted for possible leave by officials at the Red Cross – they don’t just take your word for it. He wants you to pay for a phone line, cell phone or calling card so you can talk to each other. My husband deployed multiple times and we never paid for a single phone call. Not to mention, soldiers are making enough to buy a phone card if they really had to. He’s about to retire and then he can marry you and live happily ever after. LOL A General will have well over 20 years of service and less than 1% of officers will make it to the rank of General. If he says he’s somewhere that there isn’t an ATM or another way to get money, there is also nothing for him to spend money on. And if we were, a real soldier wouldn’t tell you that. I originally had other questions you could ask regarding his training, etc, but I’m removing those because many people believed whatever ridiculous information he came up with when they asked.However, they don’t talk about it and they certainly don’t tell you they are on a “top secret mission”. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. If he truly is not allowed to share any details about his job, his CO doesn’t even allow him to talk about it with family, much less someone he met on the internet.Also, any special operations soldier worth his beret will not reveal his location to someone he doesn’t know (or even someone he does! Sometimes with this tactic, they will ask you to email/send mail to the CO to ask for permission. I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top.I had a c-section and was in the hospital in a private room for three days. They may very well be using the picture of a real soldier but that doesn’t mean you’re talking to him. I’ve seen very badly doctored military ID cards where it’s obvious he’s typed over information on the card.Some of these scumbags are using the pictures of soldiers who were killed in action to run their scams. Someone told me once they were dating a General and she even had pictures. What’s funny is he’ll type over the only legitimate information on the card and replace it with something that makes no sense. The pictures they use many times on military IDs are so fake and it’s so obvious.