We have similar ‘attachment relationships’ with our romantic partners and our children, but it is debatable whether a friendship fits into that category.
Others may claim that you can also have the same attachment with friends, but I would say it’s probably not the case.
We produce a major complex of neurochemicals that are released when we interact with each other, face-to-face. The only way to form a long-term relationship is regular physical contact: laughing with that person, touching that person…
Nowadays, a lot of people never pair up and are always looking for the next best thing, which is not good for us individually and for our society.
We can trace this back to primates, our closest animal relatives.
When they groom each other, they produce similar neurochemicals like endorphins and this is their social glue.
“There is a connection between the two, because we have long-term relationships so that we can raise children well, from an evolutionary viewpoint, considering that human babies are so helpless and dependent, needing a long time to develop.
Lasting love is there so that children grow healthily, as human parents must stay together longer and bond with their child more than animals do.” So Anna is sceptical of online dating and the importance of love with no strings attached.