Here’s how: SEE ALSO: I Did Not Marry My One True Love START SPENDING TIME WITH BETTER GUYS — BECAUSE THEY’RE OUT THERE!I always get questions from women disappointed in the men in their lives.Because ladies, anything valuable is worth protecting – AND EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU IS SO EXTREMELY VALUABLE., where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love.You may also recognize her voice from her 100 articles at Relevant Magazine or Crosswalk.com!Take responsibility for your relationships by saying no to one-sided relationships. I recently read a Christian article that encouraged women to “wait on the men.” I’ll be honest, I totally yelled at my computer screen at some point during that article. For some reason, I was pretty sure Scripture encouraged us to wait on God….hey, I could be wrong.I see an interesting culture of conservative Christian women who believe that they should just wait around, letting the men in their lives “lead the way,” all-the-while passively following along in an ambiguous, awkward, who-knows-what-this-is kind of relationship where they have no idea if the guy is interested in them or just sees them as their “sister in Christ.” But what gets me is that not only are they waiting, they’re making excuses for him along the way: maybe he’s too shy, maybe he hasn’t yet heard from God, maybe he’s trying to guard my heart, maybe he’s intimidated by me…….with all the excuses, they continue to wait, and wait, and wait.STOP BEING OKAY WITH GIVING SO MUCH AND RECEIVING SO LITTLE Another thing that comes up again and again is the idea of women who give too much, and men who give too little.But partly I think this is also a representation of the kind of relationships we’re allowing ourselves to engage in as women!
If this is the kind of dating relationship you’re in, imagine how terrible it will be to carry that kind of interaction into marriage?
“My mom has prayed for me my entire life, hoping I’d come back to God.
I never left Him, I was just a little bit secular, I was more materialistic and more career-driven.
And what we get in the end is a whole lot of capable, godly, beautiful, amazing women who are just waiting around for the man to do something, all the while passing their lives away.
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again: Christian woman get so bogged down by the concept of men being “leaders” that we fail to recognize that God only calls us into this kind of “leading” relationship within the walls of a loving, respect-filled, and mutually submissive marriage.