Introverts, like everyone, can practice their social skills and become more capable in social situations.
But it won’t change the fact that those interactions drain us.
Everyone acts introverted at times and extroverted at other times.
It’s all about what your preference — in general — tends to be.
But, if you’re hoping to become more social, there’s good news: There are lots of charming introverts out there, from major stars like Lady Gaga, Audrey Hepburn and Johnny Depp to many of the warm, friendly and charismatic introverts we’ve met thanks to the Introvert, Dear community.
For most of us, becoming comfortable in social situations has simply been a matter of practice—even if it seemed impossible once.
But, like many introverts, if you were teased, bullied, or told to “come out of your shell,” you may have developed social anxiety or felt like you had to pretend to be someone you’re not.
There are two answers to this: Why we can’t: The research is clear that introverts express their temperament from a young age.
Sooner or later, however, all introverts will experience the dreaded “introvert hangover,” which is the feeling of being completely wiped out from too much “people time” or stimulation.
This can mean feeling fatigued, unable to concentrate, or even grouchy.
If extroverts are marathon runners, introverts are sprinters.
That doesn’t mean that introverts don’t like running (er, social time). Unfortunately, many people don’t fully understand what it means to be an introvert.